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Scared about telling talking to your teen about sex? Scared you won’t know how to say anything about the subject? Scared your child won’t listen?

You are not the only one. Many parents have this problem. They try but it the right words won’t come out. It is better for you to start the conversation other then waiting until it’s too late. Start off by sitting them down and saying that “We need to talk about something very important”. By knowing that you are serious, it will definably get there attention.

Start the conversation off with a sentence like “What all do you know about sex”. Let them tell you what they know so they won’t have to explain everything. If they know nothing then you have to suck it in and tell them everything.

Tell them about HIV, AIDS, and other sexual transmitted diseases. Make sure to tell them that HIV or AIDS can not be transmitted by spit. It can only be caught by having sex unprotected. Some other transmitted diseases are Herpes, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and the lists never stops.

After hearing all these they might think you are trying to scare them. That may be what some parents try to do. But if you are not trying to do that then you simply explain your reasons of telling them this. Which is you simply care about the situation.

Tell the child if they still are considering having sex to be safe. Tell them to always use a condom, for there safety. Tell them if the person they desire to have sex with doesn’t have a condom then they should not go though with it. Maybe it was a sign that it wasn’t time to do it just yet. Let them understand they it is there body and they have a long life it live. Let them know that they can wait for this experience. Don’t do it because of peer pressure or because everybody else is doing it. Let them know this is there discussion.

If you are religious and you want to use what the bible says in your discussion. You might want to use that they wait until they get married to have sex, or that it is a sin to have sex with someone you are unmarried to.

If they are still convinced to have sex after all that you should only support them. If you try to stop them or act differently then they will sneak to do whatever. You would rather know where they are then for them to sneak around and do this, and chance for something to go wrong in the process. You never want them to sneak and have sex because they will disregard everything you told them in this conversation. Be concerned but not to the point were you go too far. This is were most parents make the biggest mistakes. You want your child to trust you with everything that they tell you. So don’t over react.

I have given you most tips on what to do in conversations about sex with your teen. Take heed to what has been discussed and hope you do the right thing.

By the time your child reaches the teen years, they are ready to discuss the topics of sexuality on an honest and open level. Sexuality, afterall, is a normal process of life and avoiding the topic with your child or acting coy in any way about the subject, only gives your child the wrong message. They can end up feeling that sex is “dirty” or something that they will need to “sneak around the corner” to learn more about on their own because mom or dad gets too embarrassed to handle any questions.

Being frank and open in all your discussions of sexuality with either your daughter or your son will give them a healthy outlook on the subject as well as give them the message that they can come to you with any question or problem without feeling afraid or embarrassed. Being a responsible parent and giving them the honest truth will help your child lead a safer love life when they are ready to take the next step in what is the most natural part of life there is.

Discuss the interaction of feelings between the sexes and the physical union that results. Discuss the problems of having sex too soon and the potential for sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Don’t talk down to you child. Invite their interaction in an active discussion so that you get to know what they are thinking, and helping them with any questions they may have on the subject, or correcting any misconceptions they may have. Ask them what they think about pre-marital sex, childbirth in the teen years, STDs, not using protection during sex, and how diseases such as AIDS can be avoided. Get your kids involved in the discussion. Get them thinking with a lively one-on-one discussion of these major topics.

Your child may hold different opinions than you do. Don’t condemn them for what they believe. You can help them more by allowing them to vent their thoughts and, in the process, correct any of their misconceptions. How responsibly you handle the situation will teach your teen responsibility in handling themselvees in the arms of love later on – honestly, intelligently, and responsibly. It will be the greatest gift you can give them – a loving guidance that will stay with them forever.